How to change your mind
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It’s easier to agree than to disagree. But we can learn a lot from conversations where we disagree in our views, as long as we are able to listen and speak rationally.
Unfortunately, most of us either don’t dare to disagree or lose our temper when things don’t go our way. These 5 tips can help you keep disagreements constructive, whether you’re talking to your parents, a friend or anyone else:
Of course, respect should not only be kept in mind during difficult conversations. Being kind and considerate to your family members, teachers or school counselors in everyday activities will help us (parents included!) lay the groundwork for times when we may disagree.
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When someone changes his or her mind, we see it as a lack of coherence, rather than as an exercise in rigor. And if we are the ones who modify our point of view, we see it as a surrender, as if finally and after dozens of conversations on the subject, we were forced to admit our defeat.
However, persisting in an error has nothing to do with being faithful to principles. And in addition, and as a minimum, we should exercise ourselves in questioning our beliefs, to verify that they are not only the fruit of inertia.
1. Avoid the «but what…?» moment. That is, that instant when you hear an opinion contrary to yours and you reject it outright. That rejection is emotional and we only rationalize and justify it after the fact, as Michael Shermer explains in The Believing Brain. That is, we identify with a position that we usually inherit from our parents, our group of friends or our upbringing. From then on, we follow its dictates almost automatically, almost without questioning anything about it.
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Editor’s note: Neuroscientist Tali Sharot explains why arguing with relevant facts often fails to change people’s deeply held beliefs. In this regard, the expert also offers options on what could be done to achieve change. Sharot is the author of the new book «The Influential Mind: What the brain reveals about our power to change others», as well as working as an associate professor of cognitive neuroscience and directing the Affective Brain Laboratory at University College London. The views expressed in this text are her responsibility.
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Those people who are able to open their minds, to be receptive to other stimuli and who are open to change when they believe or consider it, are highly competent profiles in their own personal growth.
You may think that if a person has already made a decision, it is impossible to reverse it. However, there are some steps that can be used to dissuade a person, and although they usually come from marketing and sales strategies, they can be used in different situations, for example, in strategic negotiations, project approvals and much more.
To change someone’s mind, it is important to know that you will encounter some difficulties. The first one you will face is the cognitive confirmation bias. This is the tendency to overlook information that goes against our opinion, giving more importance to everything that reaffirms our concept.
The second is that human beings hate to be subjugated by others, and to change our opinion is really to submit to the will of another person. And thirdly, in general, we all hate to admit that we are wrong.